R, 115 bytes

function(n,r=0:(n*1e3),a=paste(r),p=r[a==Map(paste,Map(rev,strsplit(a,"")),collapse="")])r[!r%in%outer(p,p,'+')][n]

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Most of the work is packed into the function arguments to remove the {} for a multi-statement function call, and to reduce the brackets needed in defining the object r

Basic strategy is to find all palindromes up to a given bound (including 0), find all pairwise sums, and then take the n-th number not in that output.

The bound of n*1000 was chosen purely from an educated guess, so I encourage anyone proving/disproving it as a valid choice.

r=0:(n*1e3)can probably be improved with a more efficient bound.

Map(paste,Map(rev,strsplit(a,"")),collapse="")is ripped from Mark's answer here, and is just incredibly clever to me.

r[!r%in%outer(p,p,'+')][n]reads a little inefficient to me.

R, 115 111 bytes

-4 thanks to Giuseppe

function(n,r=0:(n*1e3))r[!r%in%outer(p<-r[Map(Reduce,c(x<-paste0),Map(rev,strsplit(a<-x(r),"")))==a],p,'+')][n]

Try it online!

Most of the work is packed into the function arguments to remove the {} for a multi-statement function call, and to reduce the brackets needed in defining the object r

Basic strategy is to find all palindromes up to a given bound (including 0), find all pairwise sums, and then take the n-th number not in that output.

The bound of n*1000 was chosen purely from an educated guess, so I encourage anyone proving/disproving it as a valid choice.

r=0:(n*1e3)can probably be improved with a more efficient bound.

Map(paste,Map(rev,strsplit(a,"")),collapse="")is ripped from Mark's answer here, and is just incredibly clever to me.

r[!r%in%outer(p,p,'+')][n]reads a little inefficient to me.