Python 2, 287 271 270 276276 275 bytes
import time,random
r,n=input()
c=n*-~r or-r
while c:
c-=1;L=[list(' '*i+'\\'+' '*(r-i)+'/')for i in range(r)];x=c%-~r;time.sleep(.1);y=x+1;exec"L[x][y]=random.choice('\xaf/\_'[L[x][y-1]in'\_'::2][y==2*r-x:]);y+=1;"*2*(r-x)
for l in['']*99+L+[' '*r+'\xaf'*2]:print''.join(l)
Does not clear the screen on tio, but works in a console.
Gif of it running: