awk, 199

{for(;++i&&d<$0;d+=o>0)for(o=j=_;j++<l=length(i);)for(k=j;k++<l;o+=v!=i&&+r~s){split(t=i,c,v=s=r=_);c[j]+=c[k]-(c[k]=c[j]);for(e in c){r=r c[e];s=s||c[e]?c[e]s:s;v=t?v t%10:v;t=int(t/10)}}print--i,o}

Usage

Paste this to your console and replace the number after echo, if you want

echo 20 | awk '{for(;++i&&d<$0;d+=o>0)for(o=j=_;j++<l=length(i);)for(k=j;k++<l;o+=v!=i&&+r~s){split(t=i,c,v=s=r=_);c[j]+=c[k]-(c[k]=c[j]);for(e in c){r=r c[e];s=s||c[e]?c[e]s:s;v=t?v t%10:v;t=int(t/10)}}print--i,o}'

It gets slow at higher numbers ;)

Ungolfed reusable version

{
    dennisFound=0
    
    for(i=0; dennisFound<$0; )
    {
        i++
        order=0
        
        for(j=0; j++<length(i); )
        {
            for(k=j; k++<length(i); )
            {
                split(i, digit, "")
                digit[j]+=digit[k]-(digit[k]=digit[j]) # swap digits
                
                tmp=i
                iRev=iFlip=iFlipRev=""
                
                for(e in digit)
                {
                    if(tmp>0)                        # assemble reversed i
                        iRev=iRev tmp%10
                    tmp = int( tmp/10 )
                    
                    iFlip=iFlip digit[e]             # assemble flipped i
                    
                    if(iFlipRev>0 || digit[e]>0)     # assemble reversed flipped i
                        iFlipRev=digit[e] iFlipRev   # without leading zeros
                }
                if(iRev!=i && 0+iFlip==iFlipRev) order++  # i is not a palindrome,
            }                                             # but flipped i is
        }
        if(order>0) dennisFound++
    }
    print i, order
}